It’s always important to read the fine print…
When you hear the term “soul contract”, what comes to mind? Negotiating a deal with the devil for all your heart’s desires to be fulfilled? Or maybe the chorus of the 80’s hit “Running Up That Hill” where Kate Bush sings “And if I only could, I’d make a deal with God, and I’d get Him to swap our places”. Soul contracts do not involve making agreements with any type of deity but rather ones we make with other souls before we incarnate on earth. You may be wondering “Why are we signing off on contracts with other souls?”. Like many things, we cannot learn these lessons alone. These contracts are not intended to grant your wishes but are meant to help us learn predetermined lessons during our current lifetime. Once we decide on what we would like to learn, we collaborate with other people’s souls to determine what major life events will help us learn these lessons.
The individuals we construct these contracts with are typically referred to as our “soulmates”. Soulmates are more than just people we feel a deep connection or natural pull to when we first meet them; a soulmate is any other soul we have arranged a soul contract with. Some of our soulmates play significant roles in our lives and stay with us for years while others are merely passing through. These are people we are destined to meet that will serve as catalysts to our growth.
It is important to note that we do not have the same range of emotions we currently have in the afterlife. When we die, the only emotion that exists is unconditional love. With that in mind, if we have a toxic relationship with someone in our lives, it is not because the soul contract we made was created with malintent. The reason we choose these experiences is either to help us grow and progress individually or to help us empathize and support others who are facing similar circumstances. For example, we may have a loved one that struggles with their mental health. At times, caring for them takes priority and it may feel overwhelming. This experience could be intended to teach us the importance of self-care or having compassion for others. It could also inspire us to form a support group for those in similar roles. However, when we encounter these pivotal moments, we reach a crossroads and have the free will to decide how we will respond.
“There are no accidental meetings between souls.” -Sheila Burke
Some people may stay in our life for an extended period of time but if their soul contract is not fulfilled within a reasonable timeframe, they will move on and continue their journey separately. When this occurs, we will likely encounter similar obstacles with others in the future, creating a cycle that repeats until we learn what we are meant to-these cycles can follow us into future lifetimes as well. If we have learned part of the lesson through this original experience, these future experiences may feel less intense because some of the work has already been done. Once our soul contract is completed, this person may exit our life, creating space for someone new to enter and teach us our next lesson. Occasionally, certain people will stick around despite having completed their soul contract so they can continue to support you on your journey.
So, if soul contracts are so important, why don’t we remember creating them? When we are born, we experience something called “soul amnesia”. More often than not, our memories from our past lives and what occurred before we were born is concealed so we are not overwhelmed by the plethora of knowledge we have within us-this is “soul amnesia”. It is important that we don’t remember making these agreements so we don’t intentionally avoid particular individuals and/or situations that we know will cause us pain. Oftentimes people will comfort someone by saying that the person that harmed them will “get their karma”. When people treat us poorly, and vice versa, karmic debt is created between us-this can be cleared through our soul contracts by treating these people (or having them treat us) better in this current and/or future lifetime(s).
It is important to note that soul contracts are not set in stone-they can be rewritten during our current lifetime if we learned our lessons more quickly than anticipated. This way, we can spend the remainder of this life learning new lessons that will be more conducive to our growth. For example, if you agreed to marry someone but you learned all that you were meant to from them prior to getting married, your original soul contract with them can be revised resulting in you marrying someone else.
Ultimately, our soul contracts give our lives purpose. They are catalysts for physical and spiritual growth in ourselves and others. This perspective can be comforting to contemplate while navigating hard times because you can remind yourself that there is a greater purpose for it all. The next time you find yourself in unfavorable circumstances, take a step back and consider the bigger picture. Ask yourself, “What is this experience teaching me?”.
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